Building Remote Connections
14 May, 2019
Communication is the basis for creating meaningful connections. This concept, however, can be difficult to materialize due to timidness, fear of being wrong, and/or feelings of inferiority when speaking with subject matter experts.
- Practice active listening.
- Establish individual and personalized connections.
- While it's difficult to arrange remotely, try to spend some in-person time together where you talk about something other than work and possibly develop a common interest. Do this in a comfortable setting where you can grab lunch or even a beer.
- Leave gap room in meetings for people to respond, looking around the room as a signal that the conversation is open to others.
- Choose someone you are comfortable with and expose your vulnerabilities to them by asking for help with a concept, extra eye on something you are working on, or even admitting that you need some help working on your communication.
- Active listening breaks down the insecurities someone may have of feeling inferior to the person they are talking to based on skill level.
- Developing a relationship outside of the work environment will allow you to solicit more from conversations regarding technical, work-related issues. It also builds trust and comfort so that they feel psychologically safe to share things, despite insecurities.
- Allowing for gaps in meetings works well for more reserved people to find their voice.
- By exposing your personal side and establishing that communication, you open up the idea for them to do the same with you.
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